Richard was notified Saturday night that his mother was increasingly uncomfortable with the hydration IV. Once again Patty has beaten the odds and she lives on. The hospice nurse suggested that the hydration should be stopped and assured Richard that she wouldn't be uncomfortable and it would hasten her demise. Sadly, Richard told them today to remove the IV. "Pulling the plug" was hard on him; he choked up on the phone with me today.
Even though you know when this kind of thing is coming, it's still hard at the end. The realization that everyone dies alone is a cruel one and can be very distressing. No matter how many time you think it, with the death of your mother, the only human who loves you in that particular way, you feel the lonliness acutely.